Fanfare Wear

How do you wear your fanfare?  I don’t have too much of a life lesson or wisdom spin on this post, it will be filed in the Fancy Fashion bucket.  But, I couldn’t resist seeing a little bit of a lesson while I was gathering the outfits to show you.  We always see a variety of levels of fanship (yes, it’s a word, even if I just made it up) at games.  My personal faves are the ones that go so out loud that it cannot be denied their passion for the team.  You know, the shirtless dudes with paint. The ladies who scream their team from head to toe.  They put their whole self into showing up and playing the part that their team needs them to play.  The fan.  The supporter.  The people that show up and say, today, I believe in this team.
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See where I’m going with this?  How do you show up when your team needs you?  How much of yourself do you put out there, to show a friend “I believe in you and will shout for you, at the top of my lungs, from any bleacher”…….just something to think about. I can definitely say I have had to think about it more than ever.  Since I drafted this post (and planned to post it a month ago), my nephew has been diagnosed with brain cancer and had two brain surgeries!  To say he has needed his team, would be the understatement of the century!  And of course, as my actual post below was pointed against, we decked out in game attire (and have worn these shirts out already)!  More to come on that journey later!
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ANYWAY….on to the clothes!
I’ll be honest, this area of life is a struggle for me!  I’m not sure when it happened, but football game attire got taken up about 437 notches.  I see girls in high heels and dresses and wonder how in the world they do it.  Even at my “spryest” age, I don’t think I could’ve done it.  To each, their own.  I’m not judging. I just prefer to be more functional and comfortable if I’m going to be out on uneven tailgating ground and climbing hills all day (and indulging in things that may alter my depth perception).
Football season in Arkansas is deceiving (and I’m not just talking about how our team lures you in, then breaks your heart with losses).  Football as a whole symbolizes fall, cooler weather, etc.  Nope, not in Arkansas.  The first few games are set in temperatures that rival Satan’s playground.  I will never forget the 2014 season when I passed out from heat.  Hard to watch men throw around footballs and chase each other when every crevice of your body could double as an irrigation pipeline for rice fields. Just hook me up to a spicket and watch your plants grow. SO. MUCH. SWEAT.
So, began the hunt for clothes that accomplished all my football fan needs.  I needed to find stuff that says “I’m here for the team but I’m gonna need some pizazz and not to die while wearing it.”
We’ll start with a piece that could not be passed up.  I love humor.  I love old school rap.  I love red.  So, when A Little Southern Charm sent me these shirts, I couldn’t wait to start matchmaking them with my closet!  The front is plain and simple (which I like).  The back……it takes it up a notch and will have the beat of No Diggity in your head for the whole season!
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I had been wanting to try the DIY trick of making your own v-neck t-shirt that I have seen these days.  I usually have a knack for screwing up anything DIY, but this could not have been more easy.  All you do is cut a V (I drew mine with chalk first) and cut around the collar. voila! You just took your tshirts up a notch.  I’m hot on your tails, sorority girls with dresses and heels!
It works perfectly with jeans and my fun MK loafers……
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Life hack:  cut the seam off the bottom of the shirt first
AND, remember to actually pack the “non altered” t-shirt so that you can photograph it for it’s place in your blog 😛 and people can see exactly what the “real shirt” looks like, before you try to be a Pinterest queen!
Check out A Little Southern Charm Boutique to grab your shirt!
Next up – The basics
This shirt definitely achieves the comfort.  I don’t know what it is about adding a little criss cross up top, but I always feel like it is a huge help in making it look like I tried harder than I did.  If you’re looking for a quick look for an “after gameday” brunch, and let’s say you may be too tired to do anything with your hair…….this shirt is perfect with a hat.
I found this at Game Day Couture and was pleasantly surprised by how fast it shipped and arrived!  I do wish it was a weeeee bit longer 😃
P.S. they have an off the shoulder top that is to die for.  It took all I had not to order it (but I am trying to dial back that obsession)
The Vest
Also from Gameday Couture, this soft vest is too comfy for words.  I love it with jeans, but I couldn’t resist trying it with boots and leggings.  I love that too and will spend the weeks leading up to season, convincing myself that it’s not too short to wear with said leggings and that I will rock it.  I will not let worry of others judgement stop me!
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Ribbons and Bows
I. LOVE. THIS. SHIRT.  There really isn’t much to say past that.  It sparkles.  It has ribbon to fancy up the sleeves.  It was made for me.  That’s all.

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It lives here if you want to grab your own.

Accessories
You cannot deny these are perfect for any Razorback game!
Found these gems at Logo-N-Stitch
There ya have it!  All set for the first few football games!  The anticipation of hanging out with our newly established tailgate group (and to reconnect with all my regular faves) is almost ore than I can stand!  WPS!!!!
Winter looks to come……they just couldn’t be done right now because it’s hotter than the pits of hell here.  😛

Fancy Goes To The Holiday Party

Ah, the holidays!  One of the most fun times of the year!  Christmas decor, holiday parties, ugly sweater goodness and now  A NEW DOLLY PARTON MOVIE (just what I needed to continue to feed my love for her)!  In honor of her Christmas movie airing today (that I have been anxiously awaiting for and assume you’re watching), I’m not only sporting a snazzy, what I hope would be Dolly approved outfit to work, I’m giving you a sneak peak into my holiday party outfit options.  Even though I have a feeling I know what Dolly would pick, I’m going to let you vote on your favorite look!  Whichever one gets the most votes (no matter which one I’m partial to, you know, kinda like an American election), is what I will wear to the party.  Promise. 

In addition to some great outfits (or what I feel are great outfits), I’ve also put together party prep list!

Enjoy!  I can’t wait to see which outfit wins!


Party Prep Checklist:

  1.  Understand the party dress code.  Then, wear what you want anyway.
  2. Make sure that what you wear won’t get you fired.
  3. Look in the mirror and say “This is going to be so much fun! I look fabulous”
  4. Take pictures and show the internet (no matter how badly you don’t want to and no matter how worried you are at what people will say of your cheesy shots, that you had a blast with…..not that I’m talking about the pics you are about to scroll through or anything)
  5. Pre-game.  This step is important.  Do something to relax you before going into the potential sea of judgement and lame office jokes (thankfully, our office party is guaranteed to be lame free so I’m not even worried.  I’m just saying you should be aware of the potential for you to encounter lameness).  Have a couple of glasses of wine.  But stay away from shots of tequila (until you get to the party and you see your boss throwing them back).  Turn up some good music while you’re getting ready and dance like you’re a star in a Paula Abdul video.
  6. Make sure if you’re taking a date, that he/she isn’t lame.
  7. Go to the party.
  8. Laugh, have fun, don’t make a jerk out of yourself that could later haunt you (like getting too drunk, lashing out at people you think hate you and slamming car doors……I’ve heard of that happening)
  9. Assume everyone that is staring at you is only thinking how fabulous your outfit is and how they wish they would’ve dressed more fun.
  10. If there is music, dance. Even if you wouldn’t normally do such a thing.

That’s it.  That’s all you have to do (other than stay sober enough not to stick your foot in your mouth).

Now, the outfits!

The party is a dressy casual event.  Most will wear jeans and a nice top or a fun dress.  When discussing the attire during our staff meeting, it was well established that they could make whatever decision they wanted, but that I would be wearing snazzy stuff no matter how casual they decided 🙂  Funny enough, nobody in the room seemed surprised by my announcement!

Sequins and Jeans (which also happens to be the outfit I am wearing to work today.  It’s completely justified as explained in this previous blog.  Click here to read it real quick)



Dressy Casual:

I was worried this look would look too plain.  Turns out, I ended up thinking it has the perfect balance of casual and snazzy!


Green and Bling: 

I am in love with this skirt and how well the necklace compliments the outfit!!  Guess what else?  The skirt has pockets!!!!!!!  Winning all around!


Rose Gold Magic:

I don’t want to influence or rig the voting (too soon?), but I cannot deny that this one is my favorite thus far.  It’s magical.  Just look at how fun it is and how it fits!


So, let me hear it!  What’s your favorite?

Outfit pieces:

Skirts: SocietyPlus

Jeans/Peplum Jacket/Red Shoes: Lane Bryant

Varsity Jacket: JC Penney

Black Top: Melissa McCarthy for Lane Bryant

Clutches: Primark

Necklace: Rue 21

 

Wearing the Things

America.  Here’s the deal.  I did NOT want to show you this outfit.  As much as I love sharing myself, especially my closet, some aspects are a real struggle to put out there.  The good days are good.  People seem to align to your way of thinking and the interwebs join in chorus of agreement that the look I chose for the day is “on fleek” (is that still a saying amongst you young ones?). The bad days, well, they’re not my favorite.  The days when people think because you are putting yourself out there and you are a blunt person, that they can take liberties in being blunt with you in telling you they don’t like your outfit, or if they were you, they wouldn’t wear this or that.

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One of my biggest “problem areas” physically is my legs.  I have written about them before (remember that guy that called them log legs? Read here if you want).  What’s bigger than my fear of criticism for wearing this style of shoe when I have such big ankles, is my stubbornness.  I am determined to overcome my own stigmas I have attached to myself and to come to a place where when I walk in a room, others can’t keep from catching some of the enthusiasm and fierceness I plan to exude! The stubborn came out in full force when I spotted these shoes on the shelf last year.  They fit, they’re red and they scream “wear me everywhere you can and own every step”!!!  Every voice in my head was saying “ugh, you can’t wear that type of shoe because of your ankle” but all I could concentrate on was that one tiny voice that would wait til it got quiet and then whisper “who. flipping. cares.  These shoes were made for you, dollface”
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Up until today, I have only worn them with jeans to mask at least a little of the legs and create the illusion that I “deserve” to wear them, just like someone with smaller legs.  Wow, that’s hard to type out loud.  It’s been in my head for a while…….I have literally had thoughts that I didn’t deserve to wear something because I’m not as little as they typical people who sport these looks.  And it’s as ridiculous for me to read my own typing of that, as it is for you to read it on your screen.
But……
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Slowly but surely……and thanks to a lot of inspirational chicks who have “paved the way”………I have gotten more and more brave to sport certain looks and it’s feeling better and better every time that I do!  Today is one of the bravest days of them all!  There was a time, a few years ago, that I would’ve walked into a room and had women stared like this morning, I would’ve immediately thought “oh no, they think I look hideous.  I knew I shouldn’t have worn this.  They are probably going to talk about how fat I am.”.  Today, when I stopped by the store and noticed stares, my head immediately went to “oh good, they see how cute this is too!  I bet they want to know where I got these shoes.  I wonder if they think I’m a famous person since I’m so snazzy this early in the morning”!  Do you know how much work that took but how INCREDIBLE it feels.  My mind simply feels lighter and more joyful.  It starts there and leads to me being kinder than normal, more enthusiastic and definitely more energetic.
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I ramble all of that to say this:

I took the VERY LONG way around in all that “find yourself”, “love yourself”, “be comfortable in your own skin” mess that we all are supposed to arrive at.  I took the long way and choose to tell you about it in hopes that if you’re on your way, you get there a little quicker than I did.

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I can’t describe the feeling, but it’s simply awesome when you arrive there.  I physically feel different…..peaceful…..unstoppable…..almost too selfish in the aspect of not caring a single bit what is going on around me.  I wish I could say that I feel this way consistently, but unfortunately, I don’t. Further truth be told, not long ago, I let a really big jerk affect the way I feel and make me question myself.  THAT makes me furious, but that’s also for another blog 🙂 and I’m just too happy right now to write about a hot fireman who turned out to be your stereotypical douchelord.
That deserves a bit of a music break 🙂 This song is perfect for this blog and a little light dancing 🙂 Go ahead – do it!
I cling to the good days.  I document them and use them to remind me not to let the bad days win.  I have no secret weapons or magic potion to this whole living in my own skin thing.
  • I just try to be nice to me.
  • I try not to apologize for it.
  • I own myself and my attitude daily (even if it’s bad or misunderstood and misperceived).
  • I wear the things
  • I celebrate the wins and steps forward
  • I force myself to learn from the steps backwards and not to camp out there very long
Wear the things that make you feel amazing and wear them unapologetically, dang it!!!!!!  I PROMISE you that it will be a small start to a huge ripple effect.  I mean that with all my heart.
If you know nothing else about me, know that there are few who can deny that I am genuine and overly passionate in what I believe.  I believe that every single person should love every single thing about them and NOBODY has the right to impose anything but love and kindness upon them.  If putting my “log legs” out there and rambling about what goes on in my crazy head helps one person to believe that even a fraction more than they did before they started this blog, I win…..and the jerks lose 🙂
The End.
If this got you as fired up  as it did me when I typed it 🙂  Read some other good ones where I “was woman hear me roar”….aka, I wore the things!

Earning My Stripes

Today’s shopping in my closet comes courtesy of copy catting. I have seen plaid and stripes a lot and been wanting to try it on myself. I am sure some of you out there can relate to a fear of putting stripes on a bigger body. But, if I am gonna live unapologetically this year, I can’t say I am sorry for trying off beat patterns. 
  
It is probably still too soon to wear this dress for the stomach I still have. But i did it and I am not sorry. This dress was made to do you favors and those criss-cross stripes are my friend! Most importantly, it’s all comfy for the all day meetings I am headed into. 

Luckily, thanks to great hair and good lipstick, my only decisions are how to manage my water intake to bathroom trip ratio when I am stuck in a conf room all day!! 

  
I dare you to wear stripes and plaid. And I dare you to have a good day doing it!!

Dungeons and Douchebags: I’ve Never Dated a Curvy Girl

First, let me just tell you how incredible I feel today!  I have been waiting for just the right time to pull out this amazing dress, that fits like a glove if I do say so myself, and today was it!  I was lucky enough to score this dress for FREE and to say that I feel pretty fantastic in it, would be the understatement of the year. Can we just take a minute to admire the awesome details all over this dress before we jump into douchbaggery? 🙂 I will just hang out here while you check it out (isn’t the embroidery so very awesome??).
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Since I am feeling so incredible, and strong, I feel like today is just as good as any to address some dating tips for the men folk.
Recently, I was talking to a guy that I had hoped would lead up to a meeting and great convo over coffee.  He was an older gentleman and according to his pictures, quite handsome.  He looked a little worn to be honest, but I didn’t mind…….my hope was that it meant he was a rugged individual who would be able to climb a tower to rescue me if necessary (ok, that is a stretch, but I’m feeling animated today).
We had talked before but it fizzled out (which should’ve been my first clue).  This time, he decides to say “Can I be brutally honest?”.  I always brace myself when I get a text like that.  You just never know where it’s headed from there.
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After our conversation, and his surprise that I wasn’t completely offended, he has not contacted me again.  We text a few times, only because I initiated the conversation.  This is the part where I realize early enough that he is “just not that into me” and move along.  And I will.  Because I am strong enough to…….especially in this dress today!
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When you explain to a woman that you can’t date her because of her size, what you are really saying is:

  1. I hold myself in such a regard, that I think I am extremely handsome and therefore in a higher regard than you as a fat person. There is a 99.999% chance that you would not qualify for People’s hottest men. This thinking (whether you realize you are doing it or not) makes you a jackass.

  2. Not that number 1 wasn’t enough to just stop, let’s discuss a few more. You are saying that you have no ability to invest time. Cause you might discover that the fat girl is working on herself everyday. Not necessarily to be a skinny minny…but to be a better, healthier version of herself. If she is as strong, ambitious and kickbutt as I happen to be, then she is also probably working towards conquering the world and realizes she needs to be the best version of her to do so.  Because she is most likely self aware enough that she needs to be her best…..what your statement says is that you are not willing to invest time and be a part of that improvement.

  3. You are clearly not self aware. Cause unless you are walking around with zero body fat, the title of Mr. Olympia, and the servant heart of Mother Teresa, you need self improvement too. The difference is, that girl was probably willing to invest the time in you and would’ve probably loved you despite you not carrying the Mr. Olympia title.

  4. You are insecure. You need a “pretty” person to validate yourself. And you probably couldn’t have handled this girl anyway. That might seem a bit dramatic, but I promise you that deep down (maybe deeper for some than others) that plays a part. Maybe you are worried what your friends would think…..again…insecurity.

Do I care that you don’t want to date a bigger girl?  Really, I don’t.  Not even a little bit.  And I have no desire to launch a war against all men who don’t want to date big girls.  What I DO want to do is make you aware that we don’t care and that while you probably think we are crying in a corner over your decision, we are really thinking the above.
Do us a favor and don’t even engage. We aren’t here to make you feel better or like you are saving us. And we are probably too fabulous on our own journey to derail it for you. We won’t morph into the naughty body you are looking for overnight. And there is a huge chance that we don’t want to.
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For those of you just joining us, I have been shopping in my closet in an effort not to save money.  So, we couple that with other randomness to bring you these blogs 🙂  Check out my Shopping In My Closet Project here!  Take a look around!

More Than One Way to Skin a Cat!

Another way to wear the polka dots! Part of the beauty in shopping in my closet is getting to mix and match things.  So many of my pieces go together in so many ways, that I am fortunate to not be married to the same outfit every time (well that’s weird for me to say, “fortunate not to be married”……sigh…..dating blows….but anyway!).
 
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I wore jeans instead of a skirt and threw in red accessories. ❤️ It still feels just as sassy as with the red skirt. My only regret is that I didn’t remember my red suede heels! But, I had to be up and ready by 6:30, so we won’t judge too harshly. I also struggled on which glasses to pair with this. Would polka dotted glasses be too much? Psshhh…why did I even ask? Of course not!! It is so strange to me to be so in love with so many things I would’ve never considered before.
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I want to make two points today thanks to the inspiration of this outfit 🙂  My mind is going 90 to nothing, so hang in there.
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Point number 1:  There is more than one way to skin a cat.  
If you’re from the south, you surely have heard this before!  I have been thinking about this a lot lately.  Ok, mostly I have been thinking about it while I drive to work because traffic and construction have been a total bear lately.  I was so angry at it the other day, but then realized, there is literally not a place in my town that I know of, that you can’t get to from more than one place.  There are very few places that only have one way to get there.  So quit griping and take another route.
Which brings us to the obvious point I am trying to make.  Just because something doesn’t work out the way we tried it, doesn’t mean there aren’t other ways to try it.  You probably tried it the way you did in the first place because you think you had it all figured out and you have to be in control (or maybe that’s just me).  So failing wasn’t bad after all.  Why?  Because now you are forced to try it a different way.  Potentially a better way.  Should you keep trying and failing?  That’s up to you.  But you should never give up after the first fail when there are other ways to do it.
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Point number 2: Recheck your love
Huh?  Like I said above, I have fallen in love with things that I never considered before.  Worthy of a whole blog on it’s own, but I’ll try to hit the highlights.  Of course being able to fall in love with new things meant I had to be open to the idea of it at all.  And, it’s no secret that to do that, you have to start with some work on yourself.  We could go into that for days, but let’s pretend you’re already there and ready to discover new loves.  Does that sentence alone not excite you?  Say it out loud “ready to discover new loves”.  Oh, it just gets me pumped!! I’m smiling just typing it!
You have to make a conscious effort to try something new.  But even more importantly, you have to agree from the start that negativity is not allowed.  You can’t go into the new and allow dread to come with you.  Most likely, it will win out every time.
For example, polka dots.  I have always hated them because I have fed into the fact that it doesn’t do anything flattering for my body and I didn’t need any help drawing attention to “all this”.  But when I started seeing polka dots everywhere and loving what I saw on the rack (and on stationary, and crafts, and 4 million other things), I tried it.  I literally sat in the dressing room, looked in the mirror and said “if you are going to try this on, you are not allowed to say one bad thing about yourself in it.  You can not like it.  That’s fine.  But you cannot hate it and you cannot degrade yourself in the process”.  I try it on and think “hmm, not so bad there fancy”.  Then I start imagining all the things I could do with it!  Add a belt, which helps eliminate the bulky look by showing that I actually do have a waist.  Throw red in the mix, because, duh.  Wear it with a skirt. Wear it with jeans.  Wear it with colored pants……..see what I mean…..it just happened.  I left the store with a little extra pep in my step!
Once I fell in love with polka dots on my body, I felt like I couldn’t stop falling in love with other things.  I wanted to try so much new stuff, that I started a list.  I was actually quite distracted by it and am so happy to have an even longer list of new things I love.  And all of that leads to our favorite word….happiness.  Can’t type that without smiling either.
In fact, I have typed this whole blog with a smile on my face.  Because as I type it out loud, I am realizing (even though it’s simple), how happy I really am.  It’s such a good place to be!  I am happy despite illness.  I am happy despite a broken heart.  I am happy despite being unsettled in a few areas.  I am just so happy.  And I want you to be, too!
HAPPY WEDNESDAY!
(P.s. No, I didn’t wear the shirt two days in a row 😝- this skirt variation is from a weekend shoot)

Fancy Faux Parenting: Yoga For Beginners

Today’s faux mom adventures are going to highlight a recent attempt at yoga for my exchange student and I.  I’m not sure why I thought this might actually go smoothly. Nothing with me ever really does.  Add her into the mix, now that she is really relaxing and I am seeing her hysterical personality, and you have the makings of the blog before you. 🙂
My only regret in this experience was that I didn’t capture any pictures or video.  So, we will incorporate an Outfit Of The Day selection instead and kill two birds with one stone.  In actuality, getting into this skirt took a few yoga moves, so technically it fits the theme.
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Also, can we just all agree that the polka dots are fun?
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Back to yoga.  I love it.  I suck at it.  But, I love it.  If there is a level below beginner, that’s what I am.  I don’t even care, though.  I love how I feel even after one session.  It has been so good for my body and my mind lately.  I try to take a free class that is offered once per week.  In typical Alicia fashion, I fell off the wagon.  We are not going to spend time beating that up.  We are just all going to rejoice in the fact that I am trying to get back into it and how helpful it has already been.
Feeling like once a week wasn’t enough, I ventured out and bought a beginner DVD set from Walmart.  It says beginner.  It came with a block (that’s code for “you can’t bend that far, so use this”).  I’m in.  Sold.  Can’t wait to light a candle at home, turn down the lights and get this yoga party started.
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Monica (my exchange student) decided that we should break out the videos and give them a try to relax us for the evening.  I was excited to have a partner.  The following are our highlights.
  •  Break out the DVD player and hook it up.  I had previously played it through AirPlay on my Mac.  Time elapsed: 15 minutes – we couldn’t get it to work.  Who knows why.
  • Put Introduction to Yoga for Beginners back into Mac and load up AirPlay.  Make it through 7 minutes of DVD with a decent attempt at the moves.
  • Stop for 3 minutes to talk about how this doesn’t seem beginner-isn at all.
  • Try the next 3 moves in hopes that, over the last 10 minutes, you have caught on and the rest of the DVD will make you look like a real yogi.  Breathe louder as you do this and the kid will think you are legit.
  •  Take a break for the next move/sequence.  This dude is crazy if he thinks this is beginners.  Explain to the kid that it’s not that you need a break, it’s just hard to see exactly what he is doing so you are going to readjust ourself.
  • Do 1 more move.  Try not to fall.  Take a 5 minute break to teach your Spanish student how to say “Yoga” in American. 🙂
  • Vote to try one of the other DVDs.  Let’s try Hath and Flow for beginners.  It mentioned relieving stress, so I’m always in for that! Do not show fear to the kid.  Hit play with a confidence that lets her know “this is going to be fantastic”.
  • Attempt the move where you raise your leg straight back in the air behind you, then bring your knee to your nose.  All while you’re on your hands and knees/legs.  Think to yourself “clearly this dude has never tried this with DDs and a flabby stomach in his way.  The knee is NOT making it to this nose.  Not today.”, but refrain from saying it out loud in front of your kid.
  • Make a mental note to ask your yoga instructor during the next class exactly how many times she is willing to see you in person in a week versus you having to go through another failed DVD session.  Make a second mental note to put the DVD set online to sell.  Wait a day, if nobody buys it, give it away.
  •  Look up just to check on your kid, only to see her stick her leg up, try to lean forward into somewhat of a pushup pose, and fall flat on her face.
  • Laugh hysterically for ten minutes.  Embrace your core during laughing to get an extra ab or two.  Because that ten minutes of laughter was more than any of the DVDs have done for you thus far.
  •  Carry your book to bed and stretch out while reading.
The End.

The One That Got Away’s Brother

Remember my great love the pink fur vest that got away? (if not, take a quick read here if you want)
Well, meet his brother.  Ok, that’s just a little weird.  But ever since that vest, it seems everywhere I go there is a fur vest staring me in the face.  If it’s not a fur vest, it’s those dang polka dots we talked about.
So, I caved.  I had enough on my gift card to cover all but $10 of this vest and to be honest, since it’s just been a bad couple of weeks, I chose to spend the money on this vest instead of drowning my sorrows and money into food.
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I was hesitant to wear it but I can’t describe to you how I feel when I put it on.  I feel sassy.  I feel a little powerful, in a barbaric, cave woman kinda way.  It doesn’t matter if you love me in it or hate me in it. I have actually brought a few pieces into my closet that I wouldn’t typically be brave enough to sport out in public.  I’m even opening myself up for more criticism by putting my hair in a ponytail.  What?  A fat girl, adding a furry vest to her body AND putting her hair up?  Then, she has the balls to tell the whole internet that she doesn’t care what they think? I won’t even argue that it’s not my most flattering piece of clothing.
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What I will argue, is my peace of mind.  And you should argue yours too!  I love this look.  I really do.  And I love the peace of mind I have when I declare (and genuinely mean it) that you can’t change my mind or convince me that I shouldn’t wear it.
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I don’t even have all the words to describe the most interesting work being done in me yet!  I am the most at peace I have EVER been.  I am excited because I know without a doubt something so big is coming.  I just have to stay the course and do the work.  Part of that work is minimalizing anything that holds that work up or isn’t moving me forward.  And the number one offender of all of that mess is self-doubt and self-hate, which is usually based on someone else’s opinion of me.  Nothing will interrupt my peace of mind faster than negative thoughts towards myself.  When your own body is physically attacking itself with illness, it’s easy to let the mind attack as well.
I love what Valerie Burton posted recently.  I plan to practice these daily since life seems to be trying like mad to knock me down (in the areas of physical health, love and such).  So repeat these after me, throw your hair in a ponytail (it’s actually my fav pic in this post) and sport a big furry vest, all while telling haters to take a hike! 🙂
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The One That Got Away

You know how sometimes you just know?  You KNOW that was the right job to take.  You KNOW moving to that new city was just right.  You KNOW that coffee and caramel and whip cream all go together.  You just KNOW.

Imagine walking into a room and just KNOWING that what was across the way was meant for you.  Sure, you might pass by it trying to convince yourself that your mind is just playing tricks on you.  You try to amuse yourself with other distractions as to forget about what you knew when you first walked in.  You try to ignore that feeling in the pit of your stomach and the increased beats of your heart.  You might even try to fill that space that you KNOW is supposed to be filled with just this one thing, with other things instead.

But sometimes you just know.  So, finally you drift over to that part of the room where THAT THING is waiting on you.  You reach out for just a soft touch and before you know it, arms are intertwined and you lose all inhibition.  

That folks, is what it felt like when I went into Target recently.  This furry vest drew me in like a moth to a flame.  I tried other areas of the store for comfort.  I am not supposed to be buying new clothes anyway so I needed to just put it out of my mind.  Ok, maybe I’ll buy something new, but there is no reason for me to own a pink furry vest.  I will just buy shoes instead.  Nope.  Nothing satisfied.  I finally go over to try the vest on and convince myself that it just didn’t look right.  I didn’t need the added layers on my body.  Where would I really wear it to anyway?  We just weren’t a match, I told myself.  It would never work.  

 

So, I left it. Hanging here for someone else to love.  I’ll never be the same.  

Even though this was maybe written a bit dramatically for a fur vest, it resembles my life more than I care to talk about.  I cannot keep letting things get away just because I convince myself that I shouldn’t have them!  If you KNOW something, if you feel it in all your bones and your heart beats faster for it…..then you have to go after it.  It doesn’t have to to work.  It doesn’t have to be the greatest thing you’ve ever done.  But it cannot go unapproached.  It just can’t!

Farewell pink furry vest of greatness.  I will never forget the lesson you have taught me.