Fancy Goes To The Holiday Party

Ah, the holidays!  One of the most fun times of the year!  Christmas decor, holiday parties, ugly sweater goodness and now  A NEW DOLLY PARTON MOVIE (just what I needed to continue to feed my love for her)!  In honor of her Christmas movie airing today (that I have been anxiously awaiting for and assume you’re watching), I’m not only sporting a snazzy, what I hope would be Dolly approved outfit to work, I’m giving you a sneak peak into my holiday party outfit options.  Even though I have a feeling I know what Dolly would pick, I’m going to let you vote on your favorite look!  Whichever one gets the most votes (no matter which one I’m partial to, you know, kinda like an American election), is what I will wear to the party.  Promise. 

In addition to some great outfits (or what I feel are great outfits), I’ve also put together party prep list!

Enjoy!  I can’t wait to see which outfit wins!


Party Prep Checklist:

  1.  Understand the party dress code.  Then, wear what you want anyway.
  2. Make sure that what you wear won’t get you fired.
  3. Look in the mirror and say “This is going to be so much fun! I look fabulous”
  4. Take pictures and show the internet (no matter how badly you don’t want to and no matter how worried you are at what people will say of your cheesy shots, that you had a blast with…..not that I’m talking about the pics you are about to scroll through or anything)
  5. Pre-game.  This step is important.  Do something to relax you before going into the potential sea of judgement and lame office jokes (thankfully, our office party is guaranteed to be lame free so I’m not even worried.  I’m just saying you should be aware of the potential for you to encounter lameness).  Have a couple of glasses of wine.  But stay away from shots of tequila (until you get to the party and you see your boss throwing them back).  Turn up some good music while you’re getting ready and dance like you’re a star in a Paula Abdul video.
  6. Make sure if you’re taking a date, that he/she isn’t lame.
  7. Go to the party.
  8. Laugh, have fun, don’t make a jerk out of yourself that could later haunt you (like getting too drunk, lashing out at people you think hate you and slamming car doors……I’ve heard of that happening)
  9. Assume everyone that is staring at you is only thinking how fabulous your outfit is and how they wish they would’ve dressed more fun.
  10. If there is music, dance. Even if you wouldn’t normally do such a thing.

That’s it.  That’s all you have to do (other than stay sober enough not to stick your foot in your mouth).

Now, the outfits!

The party is a dressy casual event.  Most will wear jeans and a nice top or a fun dress.  When discussing the attire during our staff meeting, it was well established that they could make whatever decision they wanted, but that I would be wearing snazzy stuff no matter how casual they decided 🙂  Funny enough, nobody in the room seemed surprised by my announcement!

Sequins and Jeans (which also happens to be the outfit I am wearing to work today.  It’s completely justified as explained in this previous blog.  Click here to read it real quick)



Dressy Casual:

I was worried this look would look too plain.  Turns out, I ended up thinking it has the perfect balance of casual and snazzy!


Green and Bling: 

I am in love with this skirt and how well the necklace compliments the outfit!!  Guess what else?  The skirt has pockets!!!!!!!  Winning all around!


Rose Gold Magic:

I don’t want to influence or rig the voting (too soon?), but I cannot deny that this one is my favorite thus far.  It’s magical.  Just look at how fun it is and how it fits!


So, let me hear it!  What’s your favorite?

Outfit pieces:

Skirts: SocietyPlus

Jeans/Peplum Jacket/Red Shoes: Lane Bryant

Varsity Jacket: JC Penney

Black Top: Melissa McCarthy for Lane Bryant

Clutches: Primark

Necklace: Rue 21

 

Wearing the Things

America.  Here’s the deal.  I did NOT want to show you this outfit.  As much as I love sharing myself, especially my closet, some aspects are a real struggle to put out there.  The good days are good.  People seem to align to your way of thinking and the interwebs join in chorus of agreement that the look I chose for the day is “on fleek” (is that still a saying amongst you young ones?). The bad days, well, they’re not my favorite.  The days when people think because you are putting yourself out there and you are a blunt person, that they can take liberties in being blunt with you in telling you they don’t like your outfit, or if they were you, they wouldn’t wear this or that.

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One of my biggest “problem areas” physically is my legs.  I have written about them before (remember that guy that called them log legs? Read here if you want).  What’s bigger than my fear of criticism for wearing this style of shoe when I have such big ankles, is my stubbornness.  I am determined to overcome my own stigmas I have attached to myself and to come to a place where when I walk in a room, others can’t keep from catching some of the enthusiasm and fierceness I plan to exude! The stubborn came out in full force when I spotted these shoes on the shelf last year.  They fit, they’re red and they scream “wear me everywhere you can and own every step”!!!  Every voice in my head was saying “ugh, you can’t wear that type of shoe because of your ankle” but all I could concentrate on was that one tiny voice that would wait til it got quiet and then whisper “who. flipping. cares.  These shoes were made for you, dollface”
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Up until today, I have only worn them with jeans to mask at least a little of the legs and create the illusion that I “deserve” to wear them, just like someone with smaller legs.  Wow, that’s hard to type out loud.  It’s been in my head for a while…….I have literally had thoughts that I didn’t deserve to wear something because I’m not as little as they typical people who sport these looks.  And it’s as ridiculous for me to read my own typing of that, as it is for you to read it on your screen.
But……
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Slowly but surely……and thanks to a lot of inspirational chicks who have “paved the way”………I have gotten more and more brave to sport certain looks and it’s feeling better and better every time that I do!  Today is one of the bravest days of them all!  There was a time, a few years ago, that I would’ve walked into a room and had women stared like this morning, I would’ve immediately thought “oh no, they think I look hideous.  I knew I shouldn’t have worn this.  They are probably going to talk about how fat I am.”.  Today, when I stopped by the store and noticed stares, my head immediately went to “oh good, they see how cute this is too!  I bet they want to know where I got these shoes.  I wonder if they think I’m a famous person since I’m so snazzy this early in the morning”!  Do you know how much work that took but how INCREDIBLE it feels.  My mind simply feels lighter and more joyful.  It starts there and leads to me being kinder than normal, more enthusiastic and definitely more energetic.
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I ramble all of that to say this:

I took the VERY LONG way around in all that “find yourself”, “love yourself”, “be comfortable in your own skin” mess that we all are supposed to arrive at.  I took the long way and choose to tell you about it in hopes that if you’re on your way, you get there a little quicker than I did.

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I can’t describe the feeling, but it’s simply awesome when you arrive there.  I physically feel different…..peaceful…..unstoppable…..almost too selfish in the aspect of not caring a single bit what is going on around me.  I wish I could say that I feel this way consistently, but unfortunately, I don’t. Further truth be told, not long ago, I let a really big jerk affect the way I feel and make me question myself.  THAT makes me furious, but that’s also for another blog 🙂 and I’m just too happy right now to write about a hot fireman who turned out to be your stereotypical douchelord.
That deserves a bit of a music break 🙂 This song is perfect for this blog and a little light dancing 🙂 Go ahead – do it!
I cling to the good days.  I document them and use them to remind me not to let the bad days win.  I have no secret weapons or magic potion to this whole living in my own skin thing.
  • I just try to be nice to me.
  • I try not to apologize for it.
  • I own myself and my attitude daily (even if it’s bad or misunderstood and misperceived).
  • I wear the things
  • I celebrate the wins and steps forward
  • I force myself to learn from the steps backwards and not to camp out there very long
Wear the things that make you feel amazing and wear them unapologetically, dang it!!!!!!  I PROMISE you that it will be a small start to a huge ripple effect.  I mean that with all my heart.
If you know nothing else about me, know that there are few who can deny that I am genuine and overly passionate in what I believe.  I believe that every single person should love every single thing about them and NOBODY has the right to impose anything but love and kindness upon them.  If putting my “log legs” out there and rambling about what goes on in my crazy head helps one person to believe that even a fraction more than they did before they started this blog, I win…..and the jerks lose 🙂
The End.
If this got you as fired up  as it did me when I typed it 🙂  Read some other good ones where I “was woman hear me roar”….aka, I wore the things!